Uncultured Hybrid

"Friendship is the beginning of every good relationship." The term friendzone was popularised in 1994. What it simply means is that one person in the friendship wants more than just friendship. That is completely normal after all there must be something that has kept your friendship going. Let's get a better understanding of this concept through a real-life experience of mine.  At some point in my life, I realized that girls came with a lot of unnecessary drama and being an avoidant person I decided that I was better off being friends with the guys. Most of my teenage years my circle of friends comprised of guys, I had a few female friends at school. Being friends with the opposite sex has many benefits, for example, you can study the opposite sex to try and understand them, you can get dating tips, get advice from a different perspective, etc. I am sure you know some more benefits. Anyways I had this friend many years ago whom I could really just talk to. I ...

Like this drawing, our flaws often leave us feeling incomplete and worthless. A flaw can be anything ranging from your figure, personality, scars or anything that you do not like about yourself. Some time ago I was speaking to a friend and he was mentioning how people never post their flaws on social media. It's true that social media has made us superficial and seeking for the perfect look. Very few people post the picture of their double chin, their cellulite or anything that will not get as many likes as they want. Unfortunately, we have become people who are ashamed of a part of our lives that makes us who we are. No human is made up of life without ups and downs. Imagine riding a roller coaster 🎢 that just went on a straight line. Would you enjoy your ride? Not at all, the joy in the roller coaster is the rush you get when going up and all the screaming you do when you go down. All those ups and downs make you stronger and ready for your next ride. The fear you had of th...

As promised in 'Love Hurts but Loneliness Will Kill You' today I want to speak about happy ever afters. PS. Expect a blog post on promises. Every story has a beginning and every beginning has an end. That is the simple cycle of life and everything that happens while we are alive. There are different ends when it comes to relationships. Some relationships end in marriage, some in friendship, others end as enemies and others are just always complicated 😂. Every relationship ends in a happy ever after. Let's have a look at how this is possible. 1. Happy Ever After - Marriage. Imagine that you have been with the person that you love for some time now and you are definitely sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Eventually, that's what happens you get married and start a life together. Although the relationship is not perfect you still cannot bear the thought of a life without this person. So you get through the drama, cry through the pain, d...

I am a creative young lady that is always looking for opportunities to apply my creativity. I create posters, take photographs, create invitations and event programs. I do this mainly for my church now but when I was in college I used to do it for them.  As a multi-talented young woman , it can be difficult to find one place that you could fit in perfectly. I often wonder if there is a job that will incorporate my love for design, photography, writing, cooking being active and more.

People often say "You have the looks, what more could you possibly want?" I truly don't believe that there ugly people in the world, I just think that there are people who don't take care of themselves and don't know how to present themselves. Physical beauty is one of the reasons that other people get emotionally attracted to someone. It's a sad reality. No one is attracted to something or someone that doesn't look good. As much as it's true that what is on the inside is more important, you only really get to know a person if you are attracted to their outside.  I have heard many people say that 'the not so attractive' people have a hard life because nobody notices them, the people they usually like don't like them back or they are victims of bullying. I mean I can relate, I went through high school unnoticed, the guys I liked would have never even thought of me in that way and honestly, I wasn't even part of the 'prett...

Some time ago I read this somewhere "It takes a human a year to recover from a breakup." I have learned that people are different and may take a different amount of time to recover and that is okay, as long as you take time to recover. Jumping into a new relationship to try to get over an old relationship is not recovery, it is just setting you and the other person to get hurt. While you are in recovery it helps to talk about how you feel, allow yourself to feel the pain and the hurt, take time to cry and just let your emotions out. Often people think that recovering is about forgetting everything that happened while you were in a relationship with that individual but I learned that true recovery is appreciating the good moments, learning from the bad moments and accepting that it was not meant to be.  After my breakup, I was very angry and sad at the same time and all I wanted to do was hate this individual. I thought hating him will make me feel better and vind...

Keep believing in love! After a break up it is common for people to say "I will never love again". What drives people to say this is the fact that every time we get into a relationship we learn to trust someone, open up and let this person into our lives. After sharing some of the most important, embarrassing, happy and sad moments of your life with someone you surely feel connected to them. Losing that connection causes people to lose trust in others. The more relationships you break off the more trust you lose in others.  Many people become insecure and begin to think that they are the problem when, in actual fact, all those exes were just not the ones for you. It's okay to take a break, be single for a while and really learn to be happy with yourself before you jump into another relationship. It is always a good idea to regain your strength before you get back to the 'battle' of love. No one is perfect and no one knows how to love right. Love hurts ...