Pretty Girl Problem

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People often say "You have the looks, what more could you possibly want?"

I truly don't believe that there ugly people in the world, I just think that there are people who don't take care of themselves and don't know how to present themselves. Physical beauty is one of the reasons that other people get emotionally attracted to someone. It's a sad reality. No one is attracted to something or someone that doesn't look good. As much as it's true that what is on the inside is more important, you only really get to know a person if you are attracted to their outside. 

I have heard many people say that 'the not so attractive' people have a hard life because nobody notices them, the people they usually like don't like them back or they are victims of bullying. I mean I can relate, I went through high school unnoticed, the guys I liked would have never even thought of me in that way and honestly, I wasn't even part of the 'pretty popular girls'. I was a book worm that spent her breaks in the library reading, I wasn't even among the smart people nor the nerds. I went through high school unnoticed. I also thought that it was a pretty hard life. I had low self-esteem (I will leave this for another blog post). When I started being noticed by guys and being told I was pretty, I honestly found it hard to believe. Eventually, I began to see it and accept it. 

1. People assume you don't have the brains.

That's exactly when I realized that pretty girls have it hard too. There is the misconception that pretty girls are dumb (not smart). In my first semester of college when my marks were 80%+ a guy actually said to me "You just have it all!" I asked him what he meant and he said: "You are beautiful and smart." I wasn't sure if I should have been flattered or offended, so I just smiled and moved on. That's where pretty girl problem 1 came from. 

2. People find it hard to believe that you are single.

This problem just really annoys me. I have lost count of the times guys have told me that I am too beautiful to be single. What does that even mean? Does it mean that my beauty is an automatic ticket to a relationship?  Does it mean that I cannot choose to be single? It's exactly because I look so good that I choose to not waste my beauty with people that will not appreciate or value me. I have the choice to keep myself till I find someone that is worth my time. Don't force me to be in a relationship just because you think I am wasting my beauty by being single. 

3. Reasons people think you are single.

I remember talking to a guy:
Guy: "Are you single?"
Me: "Yes."
Guy: "How long?"
Me: "A few months"
Guy: "What happened?"
Me: "He broke up with me."
Guy: "What idiot would break up with a girl like you? I am sure he did something he was guilty about!"
Honestly, I said what I believed, that it wasn't his fault and things were really not working out anymore. Even though my ex said 'it's over' I believe that it was something that we both wanted, a mutual decision.  So he said to me "He definitely did something for you to also want to get out of the relationship." Why does it have to be the guys' fault really? They also assume that you are single because someone broke your heart, yeah someone did but he doesn't have that much power over me. 

4. Guys are always up your alley trying to hook up with you!

This may seem untrue but I speak from personal experience. Every time I go somewhere there is someone that wants my number. That would be okay if I was actually looking for someone to be with but it really gets annoying when you are just trying to enjoy and embrace being single. Can you allow me to breathe and love myself?

5. Trust issues.

So it becomes really difficult to know people's intentions. When a guy tells me he likes me, I always ask "why" or "what exactly do you like about me?" I really find it hard to believe that someone who I just met can be head over hills without even knowing me. They can definitely like what they see but that is never enough, at least get to know me.  When people are always attracted to your outer appearance it's hard to know their intentions, do they want you to show off to their friends, for their Instagram photos, for sex or do they really want to put in the work and build a relationship?

6. Opposites attract 😩.

Like I said earlier we are all attracted to something that looks good and "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". If opposites really attract does that mean I will end up with someone that is not attractive? This is not a real problem, just wanted to add something funny.


I saw this on a friends WhatsApp story after I wrote this blog post. Coincidence? 

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