Love Hurts But Loneliness Will Kill You

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Keep believing in love!

After a break up it is common for people to say "I will never love again". What drives people to say this is the fact that every time we get into a relationship we learn to trust someone, open up and let this person into our lives. After sharing some of the most important, embarrassing, happy and sad moments of your life with someone you surely feel connected to them. Losing that connection causes people to lose trust in others. The more relationships you break off the more trust you lose in others. 

Many people become insecure and begin to think that they are the problem when, in actual fact, all those exes were just not the ones for you. It's okay to take a break, be single for a while and really learn to be happy with yourself before you jump into another relationship. It is always a good idea to regain your strength before you get back to the 'battle' of love. No one is perfect and no one knows how to love right. Love hurts whether you are with the person you love or not. 

Some time ago I was in a relationship, and I was thrilled. Although I was happy there were certain situations and occasions where either one of us hurt the other. As much as we 'loved' each other we were two human beings who were just learning to be with each other. It's completely normal for couples to disagree and not be happy all the time, no one is perfect. When we broke up it really hurt because, although we were not in a good space before the breakup, I already had a connection with this individual. The thought of no longer having this person to talk to, to laugh with and to share my moments was quite scary. After a few months, I overcame the pain. I am still single but it is not because I have stopped believing in love.  I am learning to be single and preparing myself for a new relationship. Disclaimer, I am a hopeless romantic and believe that there is a 'happy ever after' in every relationship (I will talk about this in another blog post). 

A break up can really be heartbreaking but have you stopped to imagine living a lonely life? Loneliness can lead to depression which eventually if not properly treated can lead to death. 

There was a man who worked from home, barely left his house, had no friends or family. He was so lonely and depressed. He really wanted to be loved and build a family but due to the lifestyle choices that he made, he did not have any human contact nor knew how to socialize. Tired of his situation he decided to end his life, his body was only discovered a month later because his neighbour had not seen him leave for his monthly groceries. 

You may not die of suicide, but a lonely life will kill you some way or another, and it's a slow death. Deciding to be alone because you are tired of being heartbroken is not your best choice. Love hurts but loneliness will kill you. You can endure pain but death is an end – you can't make any changes if you are dead. 

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