Happy Ever After

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As promised in 'Love Hurts but Loneliness Will Kill You' today I want to speak about happy ever afters. PS. Expect a blog post on promises.



Every story has a beginning and every beginning has an end. That is the simple cycle of life and everything that happens while we are alive. There are different ends when it comes to relationships. Some relationships end in marriage, some in friendship, others end as enemies and others are just always complicated 😂. Every relationship ends in a happy ever after. Let's have a look at how this is possible.

1. Happy Ever After - Marriage.

Imagine that you have been with the person that you love for some time now and you are definitely sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with them. Eventually, that's what happens you get married and start a life together. Although the relationship is not perfect you still cannot bear the thought of a life without this person. So you get through the drama, cry through the pain, discuss your problems and prevail. You celebrate your wedding anniversary for years and become an inspiration to other couples and single people.

2. Happy Ever After - Divorce.

 You have been married to someone and at some point in your relationship, you really thought that this was the one but things are really not working out anymore. Perhaps your partner no longer values or respects you or they have been unfaithful. As much as you try to make things work nothing is the same anymore. After much trial and error, you decide to get a divorce and move on with your life. The first few months or years will be difficult depending on your recovery (check out my blog post on recovery). Once you have recovered you become a much happier person and you may even find love again. You're happily ever after is getting out of a broken relationship so that you can regain your joy.

3. Happy Ever After - Friendship.

 So you have met this wonderful person and would really love them to be a part of your life. You start dating and share great and terrible moments with each other. In the honeymoon stage, you compromise by ignoring the other persons' flaws. When you've passed the honeymoon stage the things you compromised on really start bothering you to a point where you just can't be with this person anymore. The only problem is that you enjoy the companionship, the fear of losing this person keeps you from getting out of the relationship. One day one of you snaps and everything ends but it ends in friendship. You're happily ever after is that you won a friend who knows your flaws. I know many people say that you can't be friends with your ex but I know that you can.

4. Happy Ever After - End

Every 'failed' relationship is a good sign that something better is yet to come; who doesn't want something better? Don't assume that because it didn't work out with Jason/Melissa that there is no happy ever after for you. Your happy ever after was just not with them. So smile, wear your crown up high, claim your prince or princess title and wait for the one that will make you his queen or her King. Always look at the bright side of life because there is always something better at the end of the tunnel.

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