Trust Your Lonely

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Single? Lonely? Longing to have someone to talk to and to take long walks with or just someone to call your boo?

Singleness is not a journey many can endure. Not many people can be on their own. I have been asked "How can you be single? Like how do you do it? Isn't it lonely?" 

Here is the truth, being single has its ups and down moments. So whether you are single by choice or you were forced into singleness you have to be ready to go through all the ups and downs.

I was in a relationship for almost three years but I can firmly say that I have been single most of my life. It's not that I don't long to be with someone. Trust me there are days were I cry, or hug my pillows a little tighter while I listen to love songs. But most of my days I focus on my work, my aspirations and myself. 

Singleness is the best time to get in touch with yourself. It is time to discover what you like and what you don't like. For those who are religious it is a time to connect with God and to really establish a relationship with Him. My journey has been great because I do what I would want my future partner to do for me for myself. Read that again. 

I am a hopeless romantic, as I have mentioned before, and I live in a romantic comedy world. I am not looking for perfection or a trouble free relationship but I do want all the romance. 

Simply put I am single because I haven't met a guy who meets the standards of how I treat myself. I don't compromise and neither should you when it comes to how you deserve to be treated. If you like breakfast in bed and you can do that for yourself don't force yourself to be with someone who will make you skip breakfast. 

If you like adventure don't settle for someone who is always tired and promises to join you next time. Life is too short to settle. We are sons and daughters of a King. You have to start acting like it. Trust your lonely heart to show you what you want. In the past few years I have done more for myself then I could ever expect any men to do for me. 

This is not to say that I will be single forever. I believe that when the time is right and when I am ready and fit to be with someone. I will consider jumping on the boat. 

Being single has been a good time for me to heal from my traumas, a time to accept and love myself. I am learning to see my value and to make friends without the strings. I have gotten to understand God better and to understand who I am in Christ. 

Trust your lonely, believe in your journey and you are guaranteed to rise like the phoenix from the ashes you have been in. You are stronger than you think and more powerful than you can imagine.

Rise

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  1. Unknown16 April 2021 at 09:29

    I died and rose again a thousand times in this post l am entirely grateful for this post in those few words l was able to find myself, Thank you xx

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