'Man Are Trash"

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"The famous saying that comes out of many people's mouths."

I know many girls and women that have this as their anthem. Often when I hear that statement I wonder if women really believe it or if they are just so hurt at that moment that that is their way to get through it. I truly don't believe that men are trash and honestly I hate it when people say it. It is true that some men won't love, treat and respect you like you deserve it but that is still no reason to call men trash. 

Remember that when you say 'men' it includes your father, your brother, your grandfather and all the other man that you hold dear to your heart. It is true that some men make us question their existence but to make such a general statement is a bit irrational. We don't like hearing general statements about women; in the same manner we shouldn't feel entitled to make general statements about anybody. 

I certainly haven't experienced even a pinch of the pain, trauma or abuse that some women have experienced because of men. I am not here to defend men. Eveytime I hear this saying I am reminded of words said to me by a wise women "What you say or how you react say more about you than the person you are referring to." When I heard this, it brought a new perspective to my life. 

It has changed the way I speak about people who have hurt me or how I respond to people and situations I am not happy with. What message are you sending when you say 'Man are trash." In our traditional African families we may be saying that we have no respect for men and the role they play. In your circle of friends you may be saying that you are hurt. In a circle of males it may be understood that you are bitter and vengeful. To your mom and aunts it may say that you will never get married.

Words are powerful and loaded with meaning. Meaning which are left to the receiver's interpretation. Next time you want to use a popular phrase think of the message you are sending. Think of who you are sending it to and consider sending your message in a better way. Avoid general statements. Consider saying:
"That man really hurt me..."
"That woman was disloyal."

Remember to put yourself in the next person's shoes.

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